Friendship

Aristotele said:
Friend is a person who can elicit in the other person what's the best and the most healthy.
Do you have a friend like this?
I do.

Failure as your Friend

Lately I heard about this way of seeing the "failure". Let's reflect for a moment about successful people. Do you think they never fail? Do you think they never make mistakes? NO.
People who reach their target - they try so many times without beeing dissapointed. How? They treat failure as a cue to change something. If this method doesn't work, I have to try something else. And then maybe try again and again. Till I get the answer.
Do you know that Edison had made about one thousend of trials before he found how work light bumb? Isn't it amazing?!
If we perceive "failure or mistake" as a feedback which learn us to change something and maintain us on the same level of motivation (maybe even more - because we have now one trial less to find the clue).
So try to see your new friend - FAILURE, get know him better and dometicate him.
Share your experience with us! G'day mates!

Autoreference

I am descriving this concept in therapeutical background, of course. I think that many of us (psychologists) in our clinical practice doesn't include this aspect in healing process. Autoreference is not only simple observation of our client comunication (verbal and non-verbal). I perceive autoreference as a capacity of being aware of your own observation. This way of perception should new spaces for osservation and new experiences.
In traditional approach we underline the necesity of separation observer (his personality traits, for example) from the reality which hi describe. Mony Elkaim claim that therapist can't separate own personal characteristics from the situation which describe. It seems that there is no escape from this paradox. Therapist experiences a return to his own personal story and to the therapeutic sistem in which this sentiments enhance.
Elkaim proposes : sense and function of personal feelings can become the instruments of analysis and intervention inside of therapeutic sistem.
I'm writing about this because this is so important aspect in clinical practice and I feel a lack of meta autoreference. How to learn to be more autoreferential? Some advises?
G'date mates!