Autoreference

I am descriving this concept in therapeutical background, of course. I think that many of us (psychologists) in our clinical practice doesn't include this aspect in healing process. Autoreference is not only simple observation of our client comunication (verbal and non-verbal). I perceive autoreference as a capacity of being aware of your own observation. This way of perception should new spaces for osservation and new experiences.
In traditional approach we underline the necesity of separation observer (his personality traits, for example) from the reality which hi describe. Mony Elkaim claim that therapist can't separate own personal characteristics from the situation which describe. It seems that there is no escape from this paradox. Therapist experiences a return to his own personal story and to the therapeutic sistem in which this sentiments enhance.
Elkaim proposes : sense and function of personal feelings can become the instruments of analysis and intervention inside of therapeutic sistem.
I'm writing about this because this is so important aspect in clinical practice and I feel a lack of meta autoreference. How to learn to be more autoreferential? Some advises?
G'date mates!