Conclusions and New Chapter

My five month experience in San Diego, California is finishing. The last weekend on the Ocean Beach, last conversation with american friends, lest Zumba class on the beach, last morning view on pelicans flying close to the cliffs, last croissant in OB Donuts, ecc.

And of course unfotgettable professional experience in Family Therapy Institute in El Cajon.

I enlarged my gastronomic experience being in Japanese Steak and Lobster restaurants, Korean, Thai, Greek, Jewish, Mexican of course.
My preferencies are changed.

I add the photo of Balboa Park, seeing from Lilly's Pond.
Museum of Photography, Museum of Art, Botanic Garden, my favourite places

I will come back here one day!!

The New Chapter starts from 1. december 2009 in Modena. Contents of it are unknown.

Doubts we have

Sogyal Rinpoche said: " Our minds are riddled and confused with doubt. I sometimes think that doubt is an even greater block to human evolution than desire and attachment. Our society promotes cleverness instead of wisdom, and celebrates the most superficial, harsh and least useful aspects of our intelligence. We have become so falsely sophisticated and neurotic that we take doubt itself for truth, and the doubt that is nothing more than ego's desperate attempt to defend itself from wisdom is deified as the goal and fruit of true knowledge. (...) destructive forms of doubt leaves us nothing to believe in, nothing to hope for, and nothing to live by.
Our contemporary education, then, indoctrinates us in the glorification of doubt, has creates in fact what could almost be called a religion or theology of doubt, in which to be seen to be intelligent we have to be seen to doubt everything, to always point to what's wrong and rarely to ask what's right or good, cynically to denigrate all inherated spiritual ideals ans philosophies, or anything that is done in simple goodwill or with innocent heart."



Part 2. - page 123 from The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying

Cope with.....

In counselling and therapy very often psychotherapists try to help us coping with stress, with difficult situations, with other problems.
But when we think longer about the verb cope, we have to assume that coping with a problem mean to tolerate it, learn how to deal with it, and not to SOLVE it.
When you cope with problem, on the assumption that the problematic situation is unchangeble and unsoluble, so from the very beginning use loose, you defeat, you don't win.
When we have a problem, we want to solve it. We don't want to tolerate it all our life.
All course, there are situations which are unchangeble, when we can't modify past and change it. For example, the death of someone close. We can't change it, we can't solve "the problem", because there isn't any. Only what we can do, is to change our attitute, our approach to whole situation. We can learn how to cope with our emotions, how to transform them is something positive.
How do you solve the problems and how do you cope with some stressful situations?
In San Diego I know one very good Istitute, where you CAN SOLVE your problems in 10 sessions. Chad Hybarger use brief strategic approach in his Family Therapy Institute in El Cajon (California).
In Italy there are many good private practices with the General Center in Arezzo (Toscany) - Centro di Terapia Strategica.