Cope with.....

In counselling and therapy very often psychotherapists try to help us coping with stress, with difficult situations, with other problems.
But when we think longer about the verb cope, we have to assume that coping with a problem mean to tolerate it, learn how to deal with it, and not to SOLVE it.
When you cope with problem, on the assumption that the problematic situation is unchangeble and unsoluble, so from the very beginning use loose, you defeat, you don't win.
When we have a problem, we want to solve it. We don't want to tolerate it all our life.
All course, there are situations which are unchangeble, when we can't modify past and change it. For example, the death of someone close. We can't change it, we can't solve "the problem", because there isn't any. Only what we can do, is to change our attitute, our approach to whole situation. We can learn how to cope with our emotions, how to transform them is something positive.
How do you solve the problems and how do you cope with some stressful situations?
In San Diego I know one very good Istitute, where you CAN SOLVE your problems in 10 sessions. Chad Hybarger use brief strategic approach in his Family Therapy Institute in El Cajon (California).
In Italy there are many good private practices with the General Center in Arezzo (Toscany) - Centro di Terapia Strategica.